maybe it is a good thing or it is more healthy, maybe, to have nothing to blame unwanted outcomes on except one's actions/inactions and those of the person or people involved. but it does not help the constant replaying of events and the trying to figure out what could (
should?) have been done in some other way, said with a different tone, withheld altogether.
all that said, i still toss coins into fountains for a particular purpose. i cannot really explain why.
silence is not the way