maybe it is a good thing or it is more healthy, maybe, to have nothing to blame unwanted outcomes on except one's actions/inactions and those of the person or people involved. but it does not help the constant replaying of events and the trying to figure out what could (should?) have been done in some other way, said with a different tone, withheld altogether.

all that said, i still toss coins into fountains for a particular purpose. i cannot really explain why.

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